A Friend Shocked Me on Facebook Today…

He didn’t post any strange pictures, or ridicule me, or anything.

And the more I thought about it, the more profound the whole thing was.

Here it is…

My friend Ben mentioned me in a post on Facebook, and invited me to like the FB page he set up for his blog.

I didn’t even know he had a Facebook page for his blog, and he’s got over 15 likes or so already. Maybe he used the Facebook doohickey to invite his friend list. But guess what? I appreciated him reaching out anyway. So I liked his Facebook page.

But me doing that was about him, as much as it was about me.

He’s done a lot in life already. Ben got married last month to the girl of his dreams (I’ve never directly asked him, but I think he’d agree). They have a lot in common, and they worked well together, from what I’d seen. 

He’ll have to move out of state for a new job he just accepted. A job, by the way, that takes full advantage of his college education in worship leading. A lot of times in modern society, folks have trouble finding work in their majors. But not him.

Oh, and Ben’s a heck of a nice guy, too.

Am I jealous? A little. But that’s not the point. I’ve known Ben for over ten years, and without realizing it, I’ve grown to respect him. Being the youngest brother in a family didn’t slow him down. Maybe that in itself drove him to be persistent. His opinions on a wide variety of issues were expressed calmly, even if I didn’t agree. And that was fine.

He’s had regrets, as we all do, but it’s become clear to me that he wasn’t the kind to sit on his thumbs and wait for life to happen to him. And he’s been led to discover great things, every step of the way.

I’m proud of the success he’s had so far in life. And the cool thing about success is, it always attracts more of itself.

If you keep pressing forward.

Which got my wheels turning…

Planning does a lot to help propel you forward. But without action on those plans, nothing gets done. My buddy Ben is combining both, to great effect.

What does that have to do with you, in your business, or life?

As writers or marketers, we’re always making plans–copy outlines, plot outlines, sketches, mockups, multiple drafts, and on, and on. Other people fly by the seat o’ their pants, and that’s okay too. Sometimes I prefer to plan.

For those times when you want to err on the side of planning (instead of pants-flying), here are some reasons and how-to-ing about the advantages of planning itself:

Planning gets you out of the present. This is extremely important. There are days I get so deeply into my day-to-day, I look up, and it’s noon. Or 4:00. And I don’t feel I’ve gotten as much done as I could have. Planning forces you to look beyond today. Whether it’s next month, a year, two years, or five years from now, you can put a map dot there, with a note attached, telling yourself where you want to be when you arrive. Which leads to the next point…

Planning gives you direction. Once you have those big steps in place, you need to link them with smaller steps. “Have 500 Facebook likes in 6 months” is a map dot. You need to draw the road to get there, from where you are now. Those are the little things you can do to reach those goals, and get the word out. If a goal turns out to be too big of a piece for you to chew, consider that…

Planning leaves room for adjustments. If you’re traveling, and you hit construction, there’s not much you can do. But if you’re at home, and you search things out, maybe you can detour around potential roadblocks. It’s the same with your business, stories, or marketing. Some blocks you can’t foresee, but try to scoot around those you do uncover.

And think of planning as something that’s written on a dry-erase board, instead of chiseled into a stone block.

Before we close out, I’d like to encourage you, my readers, to keep planning and moving forward, too. One thing, and one day, at a time. Plan for the future, but remember to live today.

And keep the little things in mind, like my buddy Ben did, with the short request I got from him.

Until next time,



About Ty Mall

Thanks for stopping by. I've almost always been interested in writing, among other things. Along with discovering pop culture, I've uncovered a lot about the craft over the past 10 years. And whether you're a fiction writer or email copywriter, I'm here to pass on what I've found out. And have a ton of fun in the process.
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