I decided to continue the Facebook motif from yesterday’s post (you can read that here.)
A few months back, I was on Facebook, and I saw a status from another friend of mine about replying to the status and he would leave a word about where he met those who replied.
So I did something without thinking. It was one of those “copy and paste” Facebook status deals, and I did it too.
Another friend of mine posted the word “disappointed” with a frowning emoticon.
For some reason that sent me into a tailspin. Bad for me, as you’ll see in a second.
Hold up. One Facebook status? Why would that be a problem?
A bit of background…
This guy was level-headed. His dad had been going through health issues, and I hadn’t followed up on it as closely as I should have. I thought that was the problem. Kind of a “you posted this on Facebook saying what an awesome and caring friend you are, and you can’t even call me up” thing.
And he was one of my oldest friends. So after an impassioned phone plea about what I’d done to tick him off, I left it at that.
More like I tried to. I still worried about it.
Then he left me a phone message explaining he’d been disappointed I’d done a copy and paste status because that had been going around lately. He thought I would’ve avoided doing that.
I had my answer.
So why was this such a horror story, on my end?
I jumped to conclusions.
This taught me a lot. Let’s go through it. I think you’ll be able to use what I learned in your copywriting business, fiction writing, or heck, life in general.
Don’t jump to conclusions. Big surprise that this is my first point, I know. But I would have avoided a lot of stress if I would’ve just calmed down. You remember the saying about the word “assume,” right? Okay. Something may not be what it seems.
Don’t let other people affect how you feel. It took me years to learn this, and I’m still a long way from where I want to be with this one. People can give you advice, that’s fine. You can take it, or leave it. Celebrate the victories, and mourn the defeats. Do your personal best to pick yourself up (or accept praise), and move ahead.
But it’s important to avoid hanging your happiness and joy on what someone else says or does, simply because they’re them. Looking to circumstances for happiness is a never-ending search. And avoiding that search will save you a lot of tears, tissues, and torn-up insides.
It’s hard to remember that sometimes, for me. I grew up trying to do my best in school, after all. My parents actually stressed less about my grades than I did, at one point–but that’s another story.
I allowed what my friend posted to affect how I felt. For hours. So much opportunity for joy that day was lost, and I had only myself to blame.
Always look at what’s underneath. What if I had disowned my buddy over this? Or refused to speak to him again? I didn’t want to lose out over a Facebook status. I did my best to look beyond to preserving a connection with a friend, instead of blowing my stack.
There’s probably more we could dig out of this. But I hope this helped all of you be a little more even-keeled when your surroundings shake up a tad, whatever the reason.
This might give you copywriters a hand with your colleagues or prospects.
Oh, and for you fiction writers, messes like this are what conflict is made of.
And something little had a big impact (I’m seeing that a lot, lately).
Until next time,