I lost a shovel a couple of months ago, which you can read about here.
Basically, I didn’t find it, despite the fact that I searched for it two separate times.
Well, I found it.
As a matter of fact, it was near the hook up for our hose.
But back when I was looking for it…
that spot was covered by more than two feet of snow in almost every direction.
The shovel was impossible to find under those circumstances.
What does this have to with writing fiction or emails? Or life in general, for that matter?
Change is constant. Learning is constant. Or it should be. You can learn from rejections, clients, peers, critique groups, the list goes on.
I got annoyed when I didn’t find that shovel. But knowing what I know now, there was nothing I could have done about it. Circumstances had to change before I could think of finding the shovel. There are things in my life that must change before I can move forward–like not worrying about things I have no direct control over.
For me personally, that includes things like:
What people say about me
What people think about me
Whether people like my work or not (provided I did the best job I could)
Whether people approve of me or not
And so on…
It’s difficult to move forward if everything in life is always the same. That’s a lesson that seems like it pops up every couple weeks, at least for me.
Is life easy? No.
Is writing easy? Putting down words is, but giving those words meaning, moving peoples’ emotions, helping them make good decisions or be entertained through words, and so on, is the hard part.
We can’t know everything, or do everything. And we can’t be everything to everyone (didn’t mean to kitchen-sink this post, but you get the idea).
I’m not the same person I was yesterday, even if the only thing that changed is the fact that I’m one day older (and wiser–at least I hope so).
You may not have lost a shovel, but there could be things in your life you’re dealing with, or that frustrate you, or what-have-ya. Maybe they have to do with people or relationships, or maybe they have to do with work, school, or a combination of stuff.
It could have happened yesterday, today, or it could still be going on as you’re reading this.
If you have direct control over that issue, you can change it.
But ask yourself: do you need to change that thing? Or would you be better off changing yourself, in a good or positive way, in order to deal with what’s come up in your life?
To alter what you are, and still remain true to who you are, in a positive way?
That’s it for the blog this week. Have a great rest of the day, and make it an awesome weekend too, all right?
Until next time,