How’s it going? Hope you had a great weekend. I was able to check out a smartphone yesterday that’s on the cheap side, which might lead to an interesting development (meaning I’d have a slightly better phone). We’ll see.
But that’s not for today.
All right, let’s get to it.
For Thanksgiving, some friends invited us over to their house.
The day before we left, a good friend of mine was messing around with one of the pull chains on the ceiling fan (the kind that has two—one for the fan itself and one for the light). He didn’t bonk his head, or anything like that. Nothing bad happened.
But a little boy (his own) was kinda watching him. After a short conversation, his wife (also a good friend of mine) happened to blurt out:
“They’re watching everything we do!”
That was about kids in general—especially younger ones.
Which got my gears rolling…
Lots of times folks are being watched by other people—because they’re curious, nosy, or what-have-ya. It happens.
People are interesting, and other people watch. We learn from others—both what to do, and what not to do. A lot of times that learning is done by watching.
But there’s a darker aspect of watching. I’ll call it
Sometimes people try to make changes (or set deadlines to be accountable) for something that they’d like to do—even just mentioning it to a couple people. And while some will cheer them on, others will watch from the shadows, hoping to point fingers—hoping to point a finger at the first misstep—the first overindulge, the first wobble on the way to the long-term change in lifestyle, or what-have-ya.
Someone with a slew of letters behind their name probably has a word for what that means—especially about the person doing the criticizing.
My point is that sometimes we do mess up—no question. We do have goals. My other point (and something I definitely need to hear and do more of) is to not let people who aren’t looking out for our best interest slow down our goals.
Which is the other part of this discussion. Some people want to spare you disappointment. Or give you pointers and adjustments to factor in to your plan overall.
This works for anything, but adjusting as you’re going along, as well as incorporating feedback, is a great skill for writers, whether of fiction or persuasive writing/copywriting.
And yes, it is a skill. No personal experience, but I’ve heard stories about other writers who couldn’t adjust, or who couldn’t incorporate feedback.
If you’re getting advice about a goal, ask yourself…
Is this going to make my (story, copy, email, fiction, goal) stronger, (easier, faster, quicker, cheaper)?”
If yes, incorporate away. If no, clip the bad parts, and salvage the good of that piece of advice, and trek on.
Have you ever had someone tell you that you couldn’t do something—simply because you decided to try? Drop me a line in the comments. I’d like to hear your thoughts on things.
Until next time,