How’s it going? You’re probably floating in New Year’s stuff still, since it’s only Day 2 of 2018 (so far as I know). I actually had a bit of a burning issue (metaphorically of course) that I wanted to get to from last year. It was confusing, and as such, this’ll be quick.
Let’s get to it.
I have a lot of people I’m connected to on LinkedIn (at least I think so–for me, more than 300 is a big number, but I know people who have more than I do, and I think 30,000 or 50,000 is the maximum).
A person or two I talk to regularly, but everyone else I talk to every once in a while (which could have been part of the problem, as you’ll soon see). And I’m connected to both guys and gals on this platform.
Anyway, in mid-December last year, I wanted to try to get things kick started for January. To see what things people had going, just to see if I could help, while trying not to be a pest about it.
So I gave each person three sentences:
I said I knew it had been a while since I’d last spoken to them
I asked how they were
I asked if they had any plans for 2018
Everything seemed fine, until a lady told me that LinkedIn was not a dating site, and if I didn’t keep it professional, she’d report me.
Hmm. I wasn’t using a business site as a dating site, and I knew it wasn’t for that. I was attempting to strike up a business conversation–that’s how I was thinking of it. All I’d done was ask how I could help her in her business (this was 5 months ago–lesson learned there), and before that, I gave her my bait piece that all my other connections get, to help them craft better emails, even if they don’t want to hire me to help them out with things.
On a gut level, I know why this went wrong.
I forgot to use the word “business” in this message I sent off.
I said I was sorry and business plans is what I meant. Don’t know if I received a reply yet, even though I checked–she’s probably disconnected from me by now.
Something I thought was very clear, wasn’t clear to somebody else.
Sounds like something a fiction writer would put their characters through (or could). It’s a lot, lot different with real people though.
And so far as I know, this is the only reply of this type I’ve received so far.
There’s a bunch of good things to learn from this, other than what I’ve put here–you’re probably thinking of a few right now, based on your own experiences, or what you would have done different if you were in my shoes.
And I encourage that. Why?
Because the ideas you get from reading this–the ideas that fire off in your own head–are the best kind.
Until next time,